I know I can. But I cannot. [National Zwemcentrum de Tongelreep, Eindhoven, Netherlands] In coaching, we talk about limiting beliefs a lot. There are so many methodologies, frameworks, and approaches for how to notice them, name them, and work through them. But before we do any of that... can we just stop for a moment? I think there’s something we often skip: the need to acknowledge these limiting beliefs. They are not your enemy. They are here for a reason. They were born s

Be a good girl. Behave. Don’t be a burden. - You learned how to comply with these rules. But no matter how hard you try, how much you do - you never feel good enough.

When was the last time when you said yes... and immediately wish you hadn't?

Sometimes success on the outside doesn't match how it feels on the inside.

Me, around the age of 2-3 years. I was 18 when I left my birth village to study at the Budapest University of Technology and Economics. My family did not understood why. It felt like betraying a script I never wrote. Just a few months later, I was told to move back home and start working because the costs of my education and living in the big city were too much for my parents. I almost did. Almost… Instead, I decided to rebel, to figure it out on my own - not moving back, jus

Two women talking. One, newly married in a conservative culture, discovers the joys and unknowns of lifelong commitment. The other, recently divorced, shares the clarity and relief found in making a difficult but necessary decision. Their honest, judgment-free exchange reveals how much we can learn from each other’s stories, no matter how different.

Stepping into the new chapter in life is always challenging. Sometimes it’s planned and intentional, sometimes it’s unexpected and painful. Sometimes we fight against the change, we want the “old” back. Sometimes we grieve. Sometimes we just want to move forward and forget the “before”. Sometimes we transition over slowly, sometimes the change is immediate. There are some changes when there is no “way back”. In some cases you might grieve your loss, but in the past years I’ve

The holiday season is upon us, and we often find ourselves sending out countless “Happy Holidays” messages to friends, family, and colleagues. But let’s pause for a moment and observe our own holiday experience: while we wish for peaceful, joyous, and relaxing days for others, do we also enjoy such peaceful, joyous, and relaxing days ourselves? For many of us, holidays are about obligations: we HAVE TO visit our relatives, we HAVE TO buy and wrap presents, we HAVE TO cook spe

Warning – This is going to be a VERY personal post. If you know me, you know that I was born and living my whole life in Hungary (until now – see below). A country that is beautiful indeed, but has been having crazy challenges in the past years. As always, I try to avoid sharing any political content, and it is not my goal this time either. But it is not possible to talk about my life changes without mentioning the broken education system and healthcare, the general hatred th

Everyone has his/her own story of life, and I’d like to share mine here. I was born as the first child of a very poor family, living in Eastern Hungary. My mother is a seamstress, my father is a metal worker. I inherited my father’s skills at problem solving; he had been always good in schools but he didn’t have the chance to get any higher education. Being the “smart kid” of my family was definitely funny, but at the same time it was hard, too. Especially in school where bei

Sometimes everything starts with a decision. And sometimes something ends with a decision. Sometimes decisions are made to change something. And sometimes decisions are made to consciously avoind something. What really fascinates me is how people react to the decisions you make. Small or life-changing decisions, the reaction of other people can be very different. Some simply ignore it. They don’t care at all. Your life, your decision. Others might understand your decision, ma

When I was a child, I wanted to be like everyone else. But I could not, even though I tried hard. I tried to prove I am like everyone else. Then slowly, things changed. After a while, what I wanted to prove was that I can do things that nobody else. I wanted to prove I can win math competitions. — I did. I wanted to prove I can code. — I did. Then I wanted to prove I can get applied to the university. — I could. There I had to prove that as a minority (girl) I can be “good en

When I was a child, I was considered to be a super smart daughter of a very poor family — and as a result, I was always lonely. My classmates couldn’t figure out what to do with my always working crazy mind, and I couldn’t figure out what to do with their “childish” behavior. (Who wants to play with Barbie dolls when the world is full of interesting things to learn???) Nobody told me it was normal. Nobody told me I was normal. And slowly I learned to think it must be somethin

As you might know from my previous post, I was over 20 when I started to learn English. Before that, I had to study Russian (yeah, I was born during the years of communism in Hungary), German as well as French in the school — but you can guess I don’t really speak any of them (maybe German a little bit). When I went to my first job interview during my early university years, I got a one-page English text to test how much I can understand it. I tried to read it at least, then